Joe Fresh dress | Hive Mind Millinery fascinator | Le Chateau shoes | French Connection clutch
Currently listening to: I Remember Shelter – The XX vs. Deadmau5 & Kaskade
This week’s outfit post is a special one. Saturday was Vancouver’s biggest social event of the summer, The Deighton Cup! Remember my outfit from last year? I decided to tone down the color… majorly. Instead of dressing in brights I opted in for this pretty black 20’s inspired dress from Joe Fresh. I felt like it was keeping with the theme of the races. If you didn’t get a chance to go this year – go next year. Round up your closest friends, dress up, have a few drinks and spend the day in the sunshine. I wasn’t going to go this year but why turn down a chance to dress up with my girls and point out every guy I’ve swiped no to on Tinder? A Saturday kind of doesn’t get any better!
Speaking of Tinder, the last we left off on here I had told you I rescheduled a date with a previous Tinder fella before I met the guy who needs to be single. Well, I went on the date.
The American Coder Who Likes To Go Dutch
The weather that day was beautiful but unfortunately it was so hot that there was no way I was walking from my apartment to Chinatown. I hopped on the bus and by the time I made my way to Hastings street – about 10 minutes in – my nerves got the best of me and my anxiety kicked in full force. I sort of hate first dates because of my nerves. This one especially had me on high alerts because of the unknown. Since I don’t have a Tinder account anymore I don’t have access to his profile. Essentially, this was a blind date considering I had forgotten what he looked like or anything that we had spoken about. I had to call Bria and luckily she was armed with our advice giving friend Terrence who made me yell out loud in the streets of Chinatown “I’M A ROCKSTAR!” because I was going to crush this date. Thanks T!
I got to Matchstick Coffee Roasters a little early and waited for him to show up from work. Once he arrived I had this “Ahh..” moment where he was way cuter than I remember and what seemed a little nervous, perhaps? Even if he wasn’t what I thought was his nerves made me feel a little bit better. We ordered our drinks and sat down. I gotta say though… I was a little shocked that he didn’t offer to get me my tea. I know he doesn’t have to but I just went from going on dates with a guy who wouldn’t let me pay for anything to someone who didn’t think to spend $3.50 on a tea for me.
We sat down and chatted for about an hour or so. We had lots to talk about as we’re both working in the field of design and web. He has some fun projects ahead at work and I really enjoyed hearing about them. Creative & business talk always gets me buzzing since my mind never shuts off and I like to think of myself as something of a Marketing machine.
He’s a very interesting man. He moved to Vancouver from Seattle and works with his friends at their own web development company. Funny enough… he worked about 3 doors down from me when I was contracted at Gold Lemon Creative. Small world!
Once we finished our drinks we decide to grab a bite nearby and headed to Pizza Farina on Main Street. We grabbed a pizza and two sodas to go and walked to the grass area at Science World. Okay, once again… maybe I’m just a little high maintenance these days or my standards have gone up but when it came to payment for the pizza I felt totally uncomfortable… I had made an effort to pay for the pizza by saying “I only have my debit card on me” when I saw he had cash – you know, casually throwing it out there. That was in the hopes he would say “Oh don’t worry, I got this.” He responded with “Oh, I only have cash and no change.” My face must have gone through stages of about 6 iMessage emoticons before the lady at the till told him she can give him change. We put the entire bill on my card and he paid me cash for his half. I think I just see this all as a very friendly thing to do – not so much with someone you’re taking on a date. (After talking to my girlfriends we’ve come to the conclusion that it was his way of sticking it to me for canceling on the first date. Since I had asked him to go on this one – he didn’t need to offer to pay…thoughts?)
Regardless of all of that, I had such a lovely time with him as we enjoyed the pizza. It was a wonderful setting – along the seawall in front of the water and watching the sunset while discussing movies, music, our favorite decades, design and much more.
I think our evening together lasted just over 3 hours before we split. I told him I would be in his area during the week and he said he wanted to see me again soon – promising right? I thought so too. We spoke a little the next day and eventually he just stopped responding and I never heard from him again. Honestly though… it’s totally fine.. even though I would have liked to see him again to feel it out it was way too soon for me to go on a date with someone else. I still have feelings for the last guy so I guess this is just all a part of the process.
Photos by Bria.